Monday, 12 August 2013

The other side of happy

It's easy to say that happiness is a choice. I've written before about how I choose to be happy and the beliefs & thoughts I have relating to happiness.

So what happens when the thoughts and feelings that you choose to ignore, start to build up? What happens when time alone is not enough to move on?

I find that my will to choose to be happy starts to waiver occasionally and when this happens I'm consumed with thoughts of how different my life could be. Sometimes when we choose to be happy, we also choose to forgo opportunity. 

Hindsight is an evil mistress who tempts the mind with a life unknown. 

Sometimes I wish my life was different, that I made better decisions and that I could go back and change some of the paths I embarked on when I was younger. 

It's never a good idea to dwell on what-ifs, there is no use in regretting things you're now unable to change. It isn't wise to mourn what isn't, when you could be celebrating what is.

When I feel I need to refocus and recharge, I do 1 of 2 things - I sit in the sunshine, listening to the sounds of nature. The wind in the trees, the birds in the sky and the leaves rusting on the grass. Or I find songs that relate to what I'm thinking about and I listen to the lyrics and remind myself that it's not just me who goes through these experiences, there are billions of people on this earth.

When its serious and these things don't work, I go to the beach. The sounds of the waves, the seagulls and the wind are instantly relaxing. The sun of my face and the sand under my toes makes me feel alive again.

Sometimes the best thing you can do is be alone. After all, the only person who's ever going to be there no matter what, is you. You are your own best friend and the person you can most rely on.

I'm writing this post as I watch the sun set on another beautiful day.

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